A guy I had been seeing on and off for years, since 2007 has been pursuing me alot lately. We never seemed to be on the same page as far as a relationship, sometimes I not ready, or he's not. But I always thought he was honest, and that now it might be okay. I always thought that eventually we would be together and even though I had some reservations, I caved in. He works at night, and supposedly sleeps all day. He tries to see me every night before he goes to work, I only allowed him over twice. For a few days he did not call me from home, cell or work. I called him, and a woman picked up early in the morning when he should have been just getting home. She said he was not there. He called me last night wanting to come over --- I declined and asked him about the woman. I never want to appear as if I am interrogating him so I jokingly asked about it, hoping that he would say it was his sister, or someone like that. He said it was not his girlfried, but if I wanted to call it that fine..no further explanation. He asked to come over, I told him no. A couple more calls from his house happened after that with no one responding to my answer. Then at 5 am, a woman who said she was girlfriend called and asked was he just coming from my house. I said no. She asked about my relationship with him and I hung up. She called back and before she could speak I told her to ask him because I did not want to get involved. I really want to know the extent of their relationship just to stop thinking and making up excuses...should I call either of them or should I try to let itgo without a word? But I really want to know the extent of his lying and of their relationship.