I have noticed a disturbing trend. I have dated four men over the last few years, and I don't know if it's due to overexposure to porn or what, but they have had almost zero interest in foreplay for me, and seem almost totally indifferent to pleasuring me. Literally the only orgasms I have are from when I am alone and taking care of myself. (I don't get it since I keep totally in shape and have a good, slim body (5'-3", 96 lbs) and am lasered totally bald down there. My grooming is fastidious and I go to great lengths to always be as attractive as I can.)
This is particularly true with the current bf, who I love very much and would likely be willing to marry. He is not at all selfish in most things ... a totally great guy and very smart and sociable. But in bed he is so selfish that it's almost shocking. He seems to have been taught that the girl is only there to give him pleasure and whether she gets any pleasure out of it is irrelevant. Great kisser, great shampooer of my hair, great snuggler. But completely one-sided as far as actual sex.
For example, he loves, loves receiving oral for ages, and he is very thick and likes to have it go down far, and it really makes your jaw very tired. But I do it because he likes it. He has never once gone down on me nor as I recall has he ever even fingered me. His idea of foreplay is to get oral for 20 minutes, then he puts a big glob of his own spit on the head of his penis and puts it in. That's LITERALLY it. His fingers do not touch me down there, ever. I once asked him, early on, about oral sex for me and he said he's just not into that. I guess I respect his honesty, but wow. I know he has had many, many girlfriends and I assumed they have conditioned him to believe this is fine. It seems like he is totally used to this kind of thing and it's how it's done.
Anyhow, I have noticed a real trend with these guys. They're not at all mean. But they have seemingly been trained that sex is about their penis and their orgasms, period.
I am seriously mystified by all this. Have you girls run into this kind of behavior, or have I simply had some unusual boyfriends? Is this due to too much porn availability, or what??