About 3 years ago my husband started have problems with ED, he tried pills, (worked for a while then stopped), the pump, (made his penis feel like a piece of cold steel, and caused him severe pain when he tried to remove the ring), and the shots, (worked for a while then stopped). Anyway 18 months ago I encouraged my husband to join me in my vegetarian diet; I told him about this book I had read and how poor diet can be the cause of ED and how he might be able to reverse it with nutrition and a vegetarian diet. To make a long story short my meat and potatoes man became vegetarian and within six months began to see a difference and today he no longer has ED.
My problem is he has lost too much weight and thinks he looks great; friends and relatives have asked me if he was sick. Myself and our son have told him he has lost too much weight and needs to eat more. He was never big to begin with but now I see his ribs and when we hug all I feel are bones. When we are in bed and I have my back to him and he puts his leg over me and holds me I hate it because his bony legs, thighs and arms feel like twigs jabbing me. When we make love it is a complete turn off because I feel like I am with a skeleton with bones stabbing me and it is very uncomfortable for me. He also likes for the lights to be on at times when we make love; which turns me off even more because I have to see that skinny body as well as feel it.
I have purchased my husband weigh gain supplement shakes that he won’t drink, I have told him that he is too small. I even asked his sister to talk to him because I thought if his sister told him he is too small he might listen to her. I insisted that he go to the doctors to be checked out because I feel that his weight could not be healthy. He went to the doctor and said the doctors told him he is fine but I don’t believe any doctor would see his weight and say it is fine. He is happy because he no longer has ED, but I am unhappy having such a skinny husband. He has always been a very picky eater but now that he is vegetarian his diet is even more restricted, which does not help.
How do I tell my husband that I am happy that he no longer has ED but I am no more happy sexually than I was when he had ED?