I am new to this so please bare with me!
I have been married for 17yrs...I do love my husband to the end BUT...I cannot talk to my sister as she will go off the deep end and think real bad of him and thats the last thing I want to happen.
Sorry if I rant but need advise.
My mother died in March this year...this has taken a real toll on me. I miss her so so much. Any how this is where the problem lies I think. She has left me very well off. Yes I know I am lucky but I would do anything to have my mum back.
My husband has seen this as a red light to spend. All I get is I want I need. I have said no. He makes me feel incredably guilty. I have let him upgrade his pc and buy other litlle bits but it keeps going...I try to explain this was my mum's money. Both my parents worked hard to leave this to us and not to be blown in 5 seconds. By the way he does ask 1st then shakes his rattle about when I say no.
The funds have gone into our joint account, as I have no where else for it to go as in 2010 we were mad bankrupt, so opening another account is a no no. (we are discharged)
I am going to buy myself some hearing aids and have had my eyes tested and bought decent glasses which I have done the same for him indoors (ommiting the aids) (My parents would approve of this)
I want to buy some furniture for OUR home. He said it was ok for me to buy this but not for him to have headphone ampts. Bit of difference if you ask me. The bits I want are for us not for me.
God I feel so miserable and they say money makes you happy ha ha ha.
Sorry rant over!