My husband and I have had problems for the past two years and I thought we were working on them. We had been in counseling for 7 months until he abruptly stopped wanting to go back in May. He's had a very close personal relationship with his single, female boss for the entire time. They would talk and text 24/7. I told both of them ( I had been friends with her ) that it made me uncomfortable and that their relationship was inappropriate. I asked them both to back off and allow the two of us to rebuild our marriage. I tried to get him to understand that as long as he was forming/continuing to form a connection with someone else, he would never be able to reconnect with me.
He told me a few weeks ago that he fell in love with her last November. He swears that nothing physical ever happened and thay they agreed that they could never be together.
Of course, I am devastated and I feel completely betrayed by this. He says that he can't help his feelings or who he falls in love with. I agree but I still blame him for PUTTING himself in the postion to begin with!!!
I'm not sure what to do at this point. We have two kids together and have been married for almost 20 years. All I keep thinking about is "He's allowed himself to connect with another woman that he KNEW I was uncomfortable with" "He fell out of love with me and IN love with someone else" "He lied to me for more than a year and allowed ME to work on our marriage while he was off being in love with another woman" "He took her out several times (I saw restaurant charges on his credit card) but he has not offered to take me out in years"
I just don't know what would be worse... if he had a physical affair with her or the fact that he fell in love with her. He gave his heart to her...