My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. i love him to pieces, but I can't seem to curb my emotions when it comes to his ex girlfriend.
the backstory: when we first got together, his ex girlfriend was suicidal so he kept me a secret for a little over a year. During this year, he spoke to her once a week and would help her emotionally and one time, even financially. he opened up to me and shared with me how life with her was in their ten year relationship. She was suicidal, he had to hide knives, she once came at him with one, she was jealous making him incapable of working with women, she was lazy and never worked, she was never intimate with him, she never went on holidays with him, etc. He said there were good things about her as well, like she was kind and caring. I felt hurt that he was hiding me and also confused as to why he continued to want a connection to her. I have had emotional outbursts and have flew off the handle on many occasions Making it very difficult to have a normal relationship. Ther contact is very limited now between them, and she knows now about me, but there are times that she still comes to him in need and asks for his help, wether it's to play guitar on his album or she simply needs emotional support. I forbid him and I get made the one that is controlling, jealous, and restrictive. He doesn't see the harm in talking to her once in awhile. How can I let thIs go? I can't seem to deal with it at all.