1 month today I was told by him he had been seeing someone for over 2 months and wanted to stay married to me but see her! To say the least I am numb, I know I have made mistakes but nothing to warrent this. We have been married 40 years, together for 43, we built a business together took him a away a lot so to fill the hole I felt inside I eat and put on weight. After years of put downs I have lost 70lbs and kept it off but my selfestem has been gone for years, so I put up a wall so I would not get hurt again by him! Never saw this coming, now the trust is gone. You see when he told me about her he went into great detail of what he did to her and how he pleased he, the funning thing is she never gave back, always told he maybe next time, so after he left her bed he would come home and we would have sex. What in the hell is worng with me? Why did I not see this coming. We are trying to work this out but I can't get her out of my mind, every time he touchs me I feel her and think he had did this to her! Will I ever be able to remove her? Thanls for listening!