I'm dating again after my divorce and at 45, still finding trouble deciphering what the heck guys are thinking! I was in a relationship for 6 months and he put up with a lot from me as for the first few months, I was still living with my ex-husband. (We have a young school-age child and were waiting for the school year to draw to a close). About a month after I moved into my own place, he began to pull away, not return my calls or texts and was often unavailable to go out. The last time we saw each other (6 months ago), he had come over to my place and initiated intimacy. I assumed things were still on track because of this but he became more distant. We exchanged texts for a few weeks then finally spoke where he told me that he didn't feel that we had enough in common and wanted to spend time with someone who had similar interests. He told also that he had recently become involved with an old friend. I was devastated as we had grown very close. He had not met my son yet and was frustrated that there were days that I was unavailable due to parenting responsibilities. I am cautious regarding my son and want to be sure that I have a solid relationship with someone before I allow this. I wrestled for a long time with the scenario of our last meeting and that there was no closure face-to-face.
For the next several months, I dated many people but couldn't get him out of my head. We had agreed to remain friends and stay in touch which we have, although it has been mostly my efforts until recently. Over the past few months, I have been getting my son situated in his new school district and have been seeking a new job- all of which have kept me too busy for dating. I guess I was feeling a sense of calm in not dealing with all of it and happy where things were. He texted me recently about my job search and we made a few friendly exchanges. I thanked him for his concern and left it at that. Awhile later, he texted;"So do you have a boyfriend yet?" I replied that I had been too busy with other things and had put that part of my life on hold. There was a long pause then he responded, "I do miss seeing you". He has since been texting me asking me how things are, if I got the job, etc. I didn't ask if he was still seeing someone but I am still interested in him...but confused! Any advice?