Who is still here? Any newbies?
Tell us a where you are at in your A, I'll start with mine.
I am in a deep and loving A for 4.5 years, we are in contact with each other every day - all day - for the past 4.5 years. We see each other regularly, at a minimum of twice weekly for an extended period of time. For the sceptics out there that think that this type of R never extends beyond the physicality of it - AP and I cook meals together, we have visited art galleries together, we have travelled together, we have danced together, in general we have been involved in many activities out of the bedroom. Now I will add that the PA is still VERY intense - almost 5 years on.
I am M with 3 young children, AP's children are older, and was M a year into our A, but left his M after he decided not to pretend any more after his dday. AP has been single and waiting for me for the past 3.5 years, and has given me until Dec 2015 to leave. We are planning to turn this into a RL relationship, I'm torn between feeling intense guilt for my H, who has been a good man and a great father to my children, and separating my children from their father.
This journey has been a difficult one to say the least, one that has taken a toll on me in many ways.