My husband's birthday was last week. I used to bake all the cakes for the family but the last few years have started buying instead. Our family bought him a small cake and gifts as usual. But when he came home he had a home made cheesecake (which is his favorite) that another woman had made him. I do not know her, she is the wife of one of his friends. I do not care that she baked for him necessarily, it was a nice gesture, but I do feel that she or the husband should have let me know that they were planning this. Our small store bought cake was quite overshadowed by her big, chocolate covered concoction and I felt a bit jealous and also bad that we had not done more for him as far as the cake went even though I knew we had gotten him what we could afford. I did tell him that I felt bad that I had not baked him something. He said a cake is a cake.. but I feel even if I did not bake it I would have liked to be involved. Also by her not telling me I feel she did not consider what our family may have already planned.