i just found your chat room and need advice from seasoned parents
i have 3 sons (through the foster care system, they have lived with us for 5 years) they are 20 (we have adopted), 17 and 15 years
my oldest son is living at home (taking a break from school), he no longer feels it necessary to follow our house rules (curfew, chores, etc). his brothers are now starting to follow his lead. he doesn't have any money because he spends it before he earns it (he is now learning a hard lesson that he didn't learn the first two times we tried to teach fiscal responsibility). all of my friends say we need to kick him out due to his disruptive and disrespectful behavior. he doens't have any friends he can mooch off of because they all live at home. what should we do... kick him out or something else, although I don't know what else to do at this point. thanks for your advice.