My bf & I could use some advice. When we first began dating over a year ago, we had a faily sucessful sexual relationship--not the best, but nothing that couldn't be explained by the newness of having a new partner. After the first 2 or 3 months, things began to go down hill. He began having difficulty achieving erections and would generally lose it once we started having intercourse. During a particularly frustrating point, we had gone 6 wks trying to have sex, with him losing his erection every time. After docs confirmed that it was not health related, he confessed that he had been a virgin prior to our relationship (I was not). He assured me that it was not an issue of attraction, and that it was anxiety that he would "fail" along w/a lack of experience causing the problem. I tried to take the pressure off him by initiating & taking the lead, which worked for a while--except any time we tried something different (different pace, position, ect.), we'd fall back into the same problem. Now, even that doesn't work. He thought it may have been because he was masturabting too much, but has since stopped masturbating completely w/no change to our situation.
We do what we can to get by, but we both really want intercourse to be a part of our sex lives. Just wondering, has anyone else dealt with this issue over the long term?