My oldest brother is constantly bullying me. Sadly I'm 31 and I still don't know how to deal with it :( He is 35 and still refers to be as "fat Josie" yes I know I am overweight but how is it okay that a man can call me that in front of his wife and children and my parents too? I really don't know what to say, I've wanted a relationship like i see my friends have with their siblings and I really try but I really don't think he actually likes me. What's worse is no one says anything to him about it to stop, I'm not sure if they think its funny or encourages me to lose weight but I just hate being around family because of it, I told my mom and she just said I am being sensitive, I was really upset tonight and she said that I must have been drinking. maybe I am too sensitive, is this normal to be called fat and "never going to get married" by your brother? I have a very respectable job but he belittles it and says I dont actually do anything, I think because he does more manual work and I have a degree and work at a desk mostly and I know he doesn't understand what I do.
honestly I would rather avoid coming to family gatherings, I know family is important but I get so depressed after going to things he is at, I imagine its gonna be different at first and I try to be as nice as possible but then im picked on and put down and after im just not sure what to do.
Is it wrong to just pretend I don't have a family? Is family important enough that I should just bite my lip or is it okay to just never talk to him again?
i have tried saying something about it to him, to my mom, but no one thinks its a big deal except for me.
is it okay to just stop coming and seriousy pretend I don't have a family? I know there are people out there that wish they weren't alone at Christmas but I actually rather would be. No one at work or am friends with calls me fat or makes fun of my job, so why do I keep coming back each year to go thru this?