This is my first time posting here...hopefully this won't be too long! My boyfriend and his 4 year old daughter, whom he has full custody of lives with me and my 3 kids (19,15 and 4). We have been together for a year and a half. His daughter had a little bit of a rough couple first years before her dad got custody of her, but she is young and still impressionable. My issue is that she is so rude, snotty, disrespectful, a bully and a minipulator. She has her daddy, mom and grandma whipped! She has no manners and they are not instilled in her, so the frustrating part is that she gets away with everything, severl warnings, threats and then no follow thru...so she knows she can continue to do what she wants cause she will always get her way. I am not allowed to punish her, because that is his daughter and the most important person in his life. She talks back something terrible and he just ignores it. Example...I had made dinner and we were all sitting down to eat...she says to me, this is disgusting and I am not going to eat it...so I said, we'll I am sorry you don't like it, but that was not a very nice thing to say...her dad looks at me and says, I will handle this and then told her don't say that word again, no say your sorry, nothing. We'll she looked right at him and said in a very snotty tone, disgusting, disgusting...he popped her one in her mouth, she laughed and said it again...he then said...ok no snack tonight, but who didn't have to eat her dinner, got snack and nothing was done? His daughter is addicted to the tv as well...she has a tv and DVD player in her room and will just sit and stare at the tv...demands for her showas to be put on so she can just sit....but she has a ton of toys...she doesn't play with them, but if the tv is not on, she will interrupt my 4 year old while he is playing.
He has made comments on how I don't give consequences to my teenagers and how they are disrespectful...which they can be because when I got divorced I didn't follow thru. So why can he say stuff and I can't? If I were to say something it would be a huge fight and I don't want that, but I cannot take his daughter. I love him so much and I haven't been this happy in a long time. I just hold it all in...I am so tired of her "I am a princess attitude" and thinks she can get do whatever because there will be no punishment...she is frickin 4 years old with the mouth of a teenager!
Thanks for listening.