An author at the Huffington Post talks about all those "well-meaning" comments special needs parents receive, but really don't want to hear:
As a special needs parent, it seems that people have a desire to comment to me about my children, my parenting, my spiritual beliefs, my life choices and my future plans. Friends, acquaintances, family members and complete strangers are remarkably comfortable questioning and commenting on various aspects of our lives. Unless the comments are intentionally rude, I smile, I nod and I educate; however, that doesn't mean I'm not sometimes offended or put off by these comments.
I work hard to maintain my belief that the world is basically good and that most of the people in it are good as well. To this end, I really want to believe that most of these comments, no matter how inappropriate, hurtful or insulting they may be, come from a place of good intentions that have gone awry.
Read her list of things not to say here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-darla-clayton-psyd/15-things-never-to-say-to-a-special-needs-parent_b_4641506.html
Are you planning on sharing this with the people around you? Is there anything you would like to add to the list?