One of my friends, who was in my wedding, is now getting married. I am not in her wedding. I had meant to talk to her before she got engaged about a concern I had about her wedding someday. That concern is that my ex will be at her wedding...
My now-husband refuses to be around my ex becuase I made a huge mistake. About four years ago, while my now-husband and I were still dating, things were rocky and I stupidly saw my ex. I came clean to him about it and we worked through it. He's forgiven me and I've forgiven myself. But that doesn't mean we've forgotten, and there's no way I would put him in a situation where he would have to spend a fraction of a second with my ex.
Now, my friend has been friends with my ex for a while, so I am sure he will be at her wedding. Her family is friends with my family, too, so me just not going opens up history that I'd rather stay in the past. Unfortunately life isn't that easy, and I realize that one way or another I'm going to have to break the news to her.
I don't know if I should try to work out a way to see her and spend time with just her and her husband-to-be before the wedding and not attend, or just avoid the event altogether. This is a predicament that has been weighing on me heavily and I honestly don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated, as tough a pill as it may be to swallow.