I am a new member of a management team (9 months now) and every year the team meets in a city for 3 days of planning for the coming year. The team of 25 or so is from all over the US and Canada and this is a time to connect and have fun. Usually it is an exciting city no one is located. Last year it was Las Vegas! We were going to go to San Diego but I just found out the plans changed and they are coming to my hometown. Not only is that disappointing for me but I also found out that since I am 'local' I don't get to stay in the hotel downtown but I get to commute 3+ hours every day from my suburban home into the city for the meetings. I'm very upset about these plans and not only feeling left out but everyone else will be having fun while I don't. They will be planning after hours activities and if I participate I will not only have the 1+ train ride home, I will have to coordinate train schedules and make my way to the train station by myself at night just to get up at 5:30 the next morning to do it all again. How do I handle this? Do I just smile and live with it? Politely decline the after hours stuff? I want to be a 'team player' but I'm the one being excluded from the 'team'. What do you think?