Reading DruidPixie's thread re: her DH and his family's behavior with the ex W (and their lack of boundaries with the exW basically) got me thinking re:
Is anyone aware of any etiquette manuals for divorces? It really seems to me that there is a need for one.....
Lots of family situations I've read on this second marriage board might be helped by this....
the DP situation--- her DH's family are maintaining a relationship with exW that is damaging to their son (DH) current marriage---
Understandably, YES, the exW IS the mother of their grandchildren, so, of course there is a desire to stay on good terms with her there, AND, they may well like/care for the woman as much as they did when she was their DIL....HOWEVER, their behavior is damaging to DH's current marriage, and they either arent aware, or dont care.....?
One thing I noticed in DP's post was re: the DH's family said that exW's NEW in-laws (she's remarried) arent accepting of her, .......so, ...they feel compelled to stay close to her....? (WTH? she doesnt have her own family or support ?)
Anyhow, seems to me Emily Post of divorce relationships for in-laws/etc would be useful.
Probably there is such a thing someplace.......it just seems if people who have poor boundaries because of "guilt" could read these behaviors are actually poor etiquette, it MIGHT help them change behavior?