Hi, I have been lurking here for quite awhile. I have been involved in an affair for a little over a year. My affair was uncovered by my spouse a week ago (he asked me if I was seeing anyone and I told him the truth). I have been put in the unenviable position of having to choose which man to be with. Does anyone have any advice for me as I make this heart-wrenching, life-changing decision? (Haters need not respond; I will not engage with haters.) Thank you.