This woman I know through friends contacted me desperately wanting me to babysit her child all week long. She said she heard that I was a stay at home mother, so she knew I could watch her child all day long. She has to work, and her other childcare fell through. Now her child is 4 years old. (I would have thought, that after 4 years, she would have made all kinds of arrangements for when childcare falls through, such as having other babysitters on hand or be registered with a drop-in daycare she could use). She seemed to labor under the misapprehension that because I am a SAHM, I was ready, willing and able to take her child into my home all week long .She did not even offer payment. I have never even met this woman and know nothing about her, and likewise, she knows nothing about me except that we have a mutual friend and that I am a stay at home mom.
Now, this may come as a huge surprise to many people. Here is the bombshell.
Even though I am a SAHM, I actually have lots of work to do during the daytime. I'm not actually sitting at home all day long. Imagine that! I run lots of errands in my car, have to fax and mail things to my insurance company, go grocery shopping, pick up prescriptions at the drugstore, wakeup, dress, feed and take my child to the dentist and swim classes, take pets to the veterinarian, take myself to the doctor or dentist, return stuff to the library, visit the bank. The only time I am in the house is when I am doing laundry, cleaning, vacuuming, dusting, tidying up, cleaning the litter box, feeding the cats, cooking and preparing meals, cleaning out the fridge, mopping the kitchen floor, cleaning the toilets and bathtubs and showers, making up the beds and taking out trash. I am insulted that people think I would just let working women drop their kids off at my house all week long, and I would just watch them for free. If you are working person, please don't assume you can take advantage of SAHMs. Its also amusing to me that many people think SAHMs are "lazy", but we are often the first people they call on when they are in a desperate situation and need help. Also, for those of you who work, please make responsible child care arrangements for your children. A total stranger is not someone who should be watching your child, even if you know someone who knows them. It is also inappropriate and rude to assume someone can do this. A polite way to ask is "I know you are probably very busy yourself, but could you help me or do you know someone who could". Rather than simply making a demand.