I and my wife have been married for about 3yrs. She was on contraception(pills), the first 6 months.
Some relative of hers who happens to be a doctor(not a gyn), told her the pills made her fat. So she stopped. But she gained more weight after that.
I think it has nothing to with the pill.
Anyway, she wanted me to use a condom. I tried a few times, but I just can't feel anything when I use a condom. I tried ribbed, large etc. No change.
When I try to convince her to take pills, she says they are not good for health. It may effect the baby in the future etc etc.....which doesn't make sense to me at all.
She also got pregnant twice and decided to abort. First time it was soon after we got married when she was on pills. She said she knew her cycle had ended and so she had stopped taking pills. I don't what this really means.
second time, I didn't even ask her why.
Generally speaking she does not like medicines and doesn't go to the doc when she's sick.
we haven't had an argument about this yet. But I don't know when it will happen.
I haven't done it for 2-3months now because of fear of another abortion. As a guy I find it difficult not having sex. It's crazy. But I can't risk another abortion.
I am not dumb and don't make the same mistake more than once.