This is clearly an EX-DH vent!
Back story: I was married to Ex-DH for 11 years - and due to IF, we got divorced. Ex-DH just couldn't handle the stress of trying to get pg and wanted to stop. I agreed - he spiraled into depression and told me to find another DH who would want to do the treatments that he just can't take anymore. Since then - I got remarried to a great guy.....and ex-DH just got engaged last week to his secretary.
So, I'm okay with the engagement - I guess as much as anyone could be....I still wonder if there was something going on between them while we were married. But that is not why I'm mad.
He emailed me that they got engaged. And then he said that things are unbearable at his church and he wants to join my church. (I had spoken to his mom last week and we did not discuss them leaving the church) But in his email, he made reference that his mom told him that I said it would be okay if he joined my church.
So, I'm a little mad that his mom has the story wrong...or maybe he made up the story to feel out what I'd say....Regardless, i don't want him there. There are other churches he can attend. (we live in the same city and sometimes run into them) Seeing them at church would make me sick. Knowing that she will "probably" get PG before me would make me think un-church-like thoughts and I don't need that .
I know that "a good Christian" should welcome everyone to church, so I'm a little bit feeling bad about how I feel - but again - there's other places to go.
I emailed him my response - so it will be interesting to see what he says. I feel better writing this down - thanks for listening.
Me: 36, DH: 40
TTC for 7 seven years (5 years with ex-DH and 1 year with new and improved DH with 1 year of break), dx: unexplained, thin uterine lining (taking cialis, estrogen and progesterone for support)
2002 â€“ Ectopic PG at 8 weeks; 2003 HSG â€“ clear tubes; 2004 â€“ IVF #1 â€“ BFP, ended in m/c at 8 weeks; 2005 â€“ IVF #2 â€“ BFN; 2006 â€“ Divorced; July 2008 â€“ Remarried & Found a new RE; December 2008 â€“ HSG again â€“ clear tubes and DH tested very well; May 2009 â€“ IUI #1 with clomid â€“ BFN; June 2009 â€“ IUI #2 with Follistim â€“ BFN; July 2009 â€“ IUI #3 with Follistim â€“ BFN