I never thought that I was a victim of low self esteem until I looked at my marriage. I am in the process of divorcing my husband after 11 years of emotional and mental abuse. He's involved with another woman whom he treats exactly like he has treated me. I've suspected all along, but my suspicions were confirmed after hearing him speaking with her on his cell phone. One minute he was telling her to stand by her man,support him, and stay by his side. The next he was calling her a fu---g B--tch because she was arguing with him about remaining in our home. As i listened to him, I realized through her what I have accepted for so many years and wondered how could I? He disrespected me for all those years and I argued with him but essentially stayed in the relationship. Even the divorce is prompted because he said that he wants out. I hope to meet with a domestic counselor soon...the wait list is long. Hopefully, in time I can restore my self esteem. For now,however, I am depressed and feeling completely rejected and empty!