My mother divorced my abuser in 1997. My mother passed away in 2000. He remarried in 1998. Last week, he died and his memorial service is this week. I wanted to attend a visitation to (hopefully) provide myself with a bit of closure by seeing him "lying in state" and make my presence seen. However, he has been cremated, so there will be no "visual", so to speak. There will also be no visitation, since he was cremated in another state and I don't even know if his ashes will be present at the service. I still feel compelled to be present to somehow "represent" not only myself, but my mother and my sisters....to keep those 20+ years of his life known...a fact he seemed to want to make disappear. Would you consider this inappropriate, or a bad idea?