I've never participated in one of these before, but I don't know how else to find people going through the same thing I am. My husband and I had our first baby (DD) last year (I'm 43, he's 41). We're now trying for #2. The problem is my father-in-law died of cancer this year. My husband has to make a 2 hour drive every other week to do paperwork, etc. for his mother who can't read/write English. It's causing a terrible strain on the relationship, not to mention making it all the more difficult to conceive. I feel guilty complaining about such a giving man especially when we're lucky enough to have the one. Anybody else dealing with these issues?