I've been posting on the TTC board for the past month or so, but I thought I might move over here and join the "big girls", lol! I'm 42 (will be 43 in January) and have been TTC #1 naturally for about 2 years now. Had two miscarriages last year (in May and December at 11 and 12 weeks, no conclusive reasons found) and have been trying again all this year w/ no luck (AF showed today).
My confusion: I live in the UK (I'm American, DH is British) and because my DH and I, after a lot of testing, aren't considered infertile (because we've gotten preg relatively recently, I'm ovulating on my own, DH's sperm analysis is "acceptible") and because of my age, I'm not eligible for IVF on the National Health Service. However time is ticking away and I'm terrified it's getting too late.
The reason I haven't been posting on this board yet is because of the fact that we aren't doing ART, and I've been scared off by not understanding all the procedures you ladies talk about. But now I'm thinking we're going to have to go private (as in, outside the NHS system) and call in the big guns--but I'm not convinced it will be effective for me, even if we're able to pay a lot of money and get it done. I'm curious whether doctors in the US are just a lot more aggressive in their approach? I'm still trying to research this and I feel very confused, and terrified that no one here is taking me seriously--my midwife and my dh's doctor are basically telling us to relax and "keep plugging away." Medical care here is much less prone to a lot of unnecessary testing and over-diagnosing, and I appreciate this approach, but jeez, I can't afford to wait and see!
I would love to think it's still possible to do this naturally, and I have several friends who have gotten preg w/out trying and had easy pregnancies (well, as easy as pregnancy ever is!) at ages 39, 40, 43, 44.... I simply refuse to give up on my dream to have children (I have always wanted to adopt also, but I need to work through this first) however I'm worried I'm the "unlucky statistic", and I don't know what to do next!
Thanks for letting me air my anxieties.... any feedback would be hugely appreciated!
PS Apparently DH and I do qualify for 3 rounds of IUI for free on the NHS...is this worthwhile doing? Your thoughts? Thanks again in advance!!