Okay, here's a facet I haven't seen covered...
I vax. I have a lot of friends whose children I spend a lot of time around. (We're a homeschooling network. Figure I see these kids 1 to 3 times a week.) Some of these families do not vax.
I am having a baby. For the early months s/he will not be fully vaccinated because it takes time. During that time s/he will be susceptible to infection.
Within the social circle it is generally accepted that kids are curious and that curiousity extends to new babies. Kids are going to want to see, touch, hold the baby.
How do I say, "vaccinated kids only" without people getting indignant? I don't always know which families do and don't vax, just that there are several who don't. (I know a couple for sure but it's not like I ask people.) I am not willing to subject my baby to close contact with possible vectors and if I have to tell people their kids are a disease risk I will, but I'm looking for the gentle way to allow the vaccinated kids access without risking my own child's health before the baby vaxs are all done.