DH and I have a wedding coming up for his cousin in 2 weeks. We will be bringing Ayden, his little tuxedo arrived today and he looks just absolutely adorable in it. Brian and his cousin Laura are very close. We were up to visit them this weekend to help them move into their new home and for me to help Laura shop for her makeup since I am doing her makeup for the wedding. Well we found out that Brian's mother is undecided about attending because having Brian and me there with our son whom she has not met will be too much for her to bear. There is a very poor relationship there and she had sent Brian an email telling him that she wanted nothing to do with us or our son and we have held her to that. But now in addition to her there are a handful of others who haven't rsvp'd and seem to be siding with his mother and refusing to go because we were invited and will be there. I feel so bad, I haven't done anything to these people to warrant being treated the way that they treat me and but now they are taking it out on others and blaming me for it and I have had just about enough of it all. I just don't know what to do about all of this anymore. At this point my claws are out because now they are involving my son and I just want to tear into people. On one hand them not showing up will guarantee that there is no conflict whatsoever which Brian and I had been concerned about but at the same time I feel so guilty and angry that they are using my son and me as an exscuse. I really believe that DH's mom is not going because she is trying to hide that she is back to drinking and lying to everyone about it and there is an open bar at the wedding. I don't think she can control herself to not drink in front of everyone and it just infuriates me that she is using us. Then I feel bad for his cousin because this is such a special day for her and they are doing this to her and I am afraid at some point that she is going to resent DH because of all the drama. It is just so frustrating !!!!