I have dealt with ADHD in my son for nearly 4 years now. He was diagnosed at age 5 and is going to be 9 this summer. I think the worst part of it this past year, has been the accompanying ODD (oppositional defiance) characteristics. We are going back to a psych. person for help in a few weeks. But I wanted some advice from other moms. I have been paying close attention to the posts here describing rewards for compliance etc. with chores/or for homework. I love all those ideas and am in the midst of creating a chart for him here. He will have to earn things as well. But how as a family do you handle the ODD features on a daily basis? I find myself so stressed. He gets mad at the dog if the dog runs by him and trips my son accidentally. Just makes him so angry. He gets so mad sometimes over such trivial things. And the other night he had drawn a picture to put in a care package for one of our troops, and the day after I shipped it he remembered what a great picture it was and wanted it back! He obviously can not get it back but spent half an hour crying over this. It seems like things are difficult and then we figure them out- and handle them ADHD wise-- but this other stuff tires me out completely. I would appreciate any ideas, anything at all..that you do to cope. If i say the sky is blue he says it's red. (Though he's done this since he was 2!--argued with me) If I help him with homework he will disagree about something as if I don't know the answer! Just makes me crazed. Any help would be appreciated.