Mom of 4 boys......
I have an 11yr old son (second son)that me and my husband have finally agreed to talk to the Dr. about medication. DS has always been ADHD, I have known it for MANY MANY years at least since first grade I noticed that he's not only strong willed but definately hyperactive, impulsive and inattentive. Can they be all 3? Are some stronger areas than others?
It took us this long to finally go the medication route, I guess you could say we have always worked on behavior modification. Not to mention he was in elementary school and we only had one teacher to deal w/ my biggest fear is now he is going to middle school and he'll have 5-8 teachers to deal with. I use to think who cares if he fidgets, squirms and can't sit still he is not hurting anyone else, right. Well now it's not only that but these last 2 years I have been worried about his social skills. Always an eccentric kid but his immaturity is starting to come out and it seems kids are starting to leave him alone. He has his 2 best friends which I am always greatful for. Not everyone needs to have 5-10 buddies but I have to admit I do want kids to "like" him (not popular just likeable) if that makes sense. DS is highly intelligent w/ gifted and talented for 2 subjects. I always thought that would explain his "eccentricness", right?. So I rarely have the school work issue. He does get frustrated easily, though and does not like to put any mental ability to his work, minimum that's his motto or fastest, easiest route.
I know when I mentioned to his pediatrician about the social and teacher relationship issues that were coming up, doc was so defensive of my son like I was;) he felt the same way I did but he also knew how much it can hurt a child because his son was the same way too. Well now that ds is starting a new school, I want to give him the best start if only for trial for a semester then let's try it. I honestly was convinced is going to have to be pulled for homeschooling. But time will tell. Ds is appt is up in 2 weeks and I am just gathering information. DS did have a full IQ, autistic, behavioral evaluation by our school psychologist. He has met w/ a counselor a good amt of times over the years. But it was all just to deal w/ the behaviors. I was not surprised by anything that I learned. Except for they were a little encouraging about how much better ds could do academically if he was on meds. Not to mention behaviors.
Ds always had great teacher in elementary school except for ONE year which was a horrible horrible year in 4th grade. He had a good 5th grade techer but ds did feel she was crabby too. Which in my terms means she was just frustrated dealing w/ his quirks and who wouldn't. I do too....Now that middle school is coming I just want to give him the best start and give him a fair chance at a new school.
I am sooooooo worried about the meds, what is the right one, which would be the right one. Not to mention I probably only have a semester to get this right. I am trying to make sure dh and son is prepared that this could take a few attempts and we may not get it right at first. I am asking them (my son and husband)to give me one semester and preparing them for the different meds we may have to try to get it right. My attempt is to learn all I can about the meds. My son is very worried about the side affects and doesn't really want to try it. I told him the whole speech about having a heart condition or diabetes I would take meds too. blah blah blah...
Any advice I would appreciate on the meds. Wish me luck at his appt. Thanks, Cris