I've been a lector for about 3 or 4 years (judging by the 4 lector manuals on the shelf lol) and dh has never been to a Mass when I'm reading. I have always felt that if he was at a Mass where I was reading, it might have some kind of positive impact on him. He's not Catholic and only occasionally comes to Mass with me at Christmas and Easter. I wasn't scheduled to read today, nor as the alternate. Both on the schedule are pretty reliable, so I didn't go over the readings this week. We got to Mass 15 minutes early and no lector. I told dh what was going on and I might be needed to read. I hung around in the back a few minutes to make sure if they needed me or not, and 5 minutes before Mass started, I was grabbing my glasses out of my purse and leaving my dh in the pew with dd. So far he hasn't said anything to me about it, and I don't want to ask him his thoughts because I don't want to come across as pushy about any of it.
In addition, our ds14 has been helping the ushers the past few months, and as we walked in the door, he got nabbed to help too. So he wasn't even sitting with dh in the pew. Meanwhile ds15 sat in the van reading (insert eyeroll here) because he doesn't like church and sees no point in it. At least he was reading his assignment for English. DD6 normally sits with her buddy in the choir, but since Daddy was at church today she was stuck to him like glue. On the way out, someone commented to me "Great job today", which is always nice to hear, especially when my dh is right there with me. He doesn't discount or discredit what I do, I just try to convey my faith to him in quiet action. And who doesn't love the approval of others?
Since 8th grade at a school Mass where I was a reader, I have known that being a Lector was part of my calling. As we lined up to process in one Sunday the pastor joked, asking "Are we going to cantor the Mass today?" I promptly turned to him and said "Father, my gift is the spoken word. We do not want to hear me sing anything."