My son is in 5th grade, and turned 11 in March. Although his dad and I think he's fine as is, compared to other boys his age, he comes off as immature. Unfortunately, it seems lots of 5th grade boys are acting more like "teens" already, styling their hair, looking at girls, and no longer playing games. One of his friends has already ditched him, because he can't understand what's fun about banging off caps and playing games like capture the flag, squirt gun fights, etc. The other night at a school function, I noticed lots of boys in his grade who appeared interested in the girls - some of whom are already wearing makeup and provocative clothes. (yuk!)
My son is now gravitating towards a younger crowd in the neighborhood. In his after school program, the counselors have already noted that he has problems with kids his own age, and have allowed him to play with the younger kids. I'm afraid he'll have the same issues in summer camp (boys his own age not wanting him around).
My son can't understand what's up with these guys - why they prefer to stand around and talk, and don't want to chase him and play tag (or whatever). I can't understand why 11 year olds are trying to act like their 15, so I'm having a tough time trying to explain to my son that he needs to grow up a little. Any suggestions?