I haven't posted on these boards since my daughter was a tiny peanut in my belly but I am at my wits end and don't know what else to do.
My daughter is beautiful, smart, the sweetest most precocious thing you've ever seen. BUT, she can also be loud, whining, overbearing and down right embarrassing in public. I'm afraid other kids aren't going to like her in school, (she just entered kindergarten), because you try to tell her what she is doing is going to make others pull away from her but she just doesn't get it.
With her friends, she can be down right clingy. With me, she pushes and pushes and pushes until I lose my mind. Today we went to a local festival, and when she couldn't go on the rides first thing, (we wanted to make a loop through the booths and then go to the rides, she begins the whining routine. She whines and whines and whines until we can't think straight. We did our loop and she behaved pretty well. But then we had her on this one ride, and i went to stand in the shade, but she couldn't see me, so she whines, (not in a normal tone of voice,) "maauummmy, go stand where i can see you" She was so loud and so whiny i almost walked away because i was too embarrassed to respond. I stayed where i was until I could see her and then told her she could see me fine. By this point i am totally worn down, we go to the bathrooms because she needed to go, then when we get there she says she doesn't need to go, so i told her to stand there while I went. While I'm going, she starts whining again, "maauummmy, I need to go to the bathroom" by then I'm nuts so I yell, yes, with others in the bathroom, "then find a god XXXX toilet and use it." She gets me in such an anxious mess that I right out embarrass myself.
How am i going to stop this whining and loudness before I ruin her self esteem by my failure to deal with her constructively or she winds up having no friends because she is so annoying?