Sorry this might be long.
We are going through a lot right now. My husband lost his job, which sucks but we are doing okay. However, this has added to an already existing environment of change. Because of this we have to cut out extra expenses. So the last day of daycare will be this Wednesday and they will be home with daddy until he finds a job and then they will be with grandma until the new school year when she will start kindy. Aria is not really getting it that the school year is going to be over on a conscious level but she is starting to react to the changes.
She has her graduation ceremony coming up on Friday, dress rehearsal for her dance recital on Friday night and then her recital on Saturday night. This is a lot for anyone and she does not do well with change or stress. At home, we do not really go on about any of these upcoming events other than telling her about the schedule changes. In school, however, they are constantly practicing. She does not practice but knows that it is going on and at dance it has been constant drilling of the routines (which she cannot physically keep up with due to poor gross motor skills, but she wants to do it). So she knows that there is a lot going on.
At home, she has been impossible. She is regressing by the minute. She has gone back to tantrums, watching the same cartoon over and over, acting out about everything, and trying to control every move of her little sister. Her speech is going back to babbling and speaking her version of spanish (all of her language skills test about 3 years above her age and when she regresses her language it is out of comfort and she does not lose any skills, so this is just a behavioral issue and not a huge concern). I am really worried about her, well and our sanity! Anytime that we bring up the recital or graduation she tells us that she does want to do it. I could really care less if she does it or not, but if she wants to do it, then she will.
My question is....I am pretty sure that this is typical behavior in children with asd's, but is there anything that we can do to help her deal with all of this change? Also, after this is over, can we expect her behavior to calm down? I just want to help her deal with all of this. We have not been discouraging her from some of these regressive behaviors (wanting to watch the same thing over and over, dressing in many layers (she does this when she is nervous and it makes her feel more secure) or anything that will not hurt her or anyone else), we are trying to make her feel secure in this changing environment, we are discussing feelings and trying to help her understand her feelings (most of the time she will just tune out during this) and trying to keep our home calm and routine. If there are any tips that anyone can give us, we would appreciate it.