Hi all -
I have a wonderful almost 4 year old son. When he was younger a good friend of ours (with the educational background to back it up) mentioned that he seemed to have a lot of the classic Asperger symptoms and my husband and I did some very basic research on Asperger's and dismissed the idea mainly based on the information that Asperger kids had serious social issues (reading body language, making friends, etc.) Our son is and always has been extremely social (will talk to anyone and everyone) has friends, plays well, reads non verbal cues, etc.
His symptoms(is that the right term?) seem to be high intelligence, obsession with something (trains from day one), very verbal (talking at 6 months) formal speech pattern and sensory issues. His only obvious sensory issue is with noises. Anything loud drives him crazy and anything with what we term a "whirring" noise (hair dryer, vacuum, mixer, blender, etc.)is unbearable for him though he has gotten much better about dealing with it.
We have recently moved to a different state and seen a new pediatrician. A few weeks ago he had a cold that turned into pneumonia and the doctor sent a nebulizer home to use. As you can imagine it sent my son into a total panic. After fighting him at home for a few hours we took him to the pedi's office where it took 4 of us to hold him down and we were still not able to get the mask on him (or anywhere near him for that matter). After we had settled down some the doctor started talking to us about her suspicion of Aspergers based on what she has observed over the last few months. She also is the parent of an Aspergers child so seemed to be more familiar with the signs. Her feeling (and ours) is that if he does have Aspergers it is probably a mild form that doesn't interfere too much with "normal" daily life. She is encouraging us to get him "tested" and have an offical diagnosis before he starts kindergartern.
We have dealt with the intelligence "issue" by putting him in a part time Montessori preschool since before he was two. This was a great solution for us because it allowed him access to "academic" work (sounds ridiculous when talking about a 2 year old)of the older kids but kept him with kids his own age at the same time. They have never identified any type of learning issue (doesn't mean there isn't one).
We are wondering what the benefits and risks of having an official diagnosis are and what the process is. If it is truly mild like we beleive will it do him more harm than good to have it in his record? If it mainly doesn't affect daily life do we really need to do it?
I am home with him and wouldn't have it any other way - I love it! But I also find it very tiring from a mental perspective. I just never imagined I would have to have hour long detailed technical conversations with a 3 year old (who just spent 45 minutes explaining to me how a cylinder box works). Our friends/family don't seem to understand how tiring it can be and think we am complaining about nothing and we should be grateful to have such a smart kid. They just can't see any down side to the situation.
Thanks for reading all this. Any advice, thoughts, funny stories, etc. would be greatly appreciated.