Hi all! I apologize in advance for the length. It has been a very emotional time.
My DS is 5 and will be starting kindergarten in the Fall. I'd like to tell you a little about Michael. As an infant we could not put him down for the first 2 months - he didn't like to be cradled and had to constantly be up on a shoulder. It turned out that he had Reflux. My DS and I would take turns every night dancing and bouncing Michael for at least 3 hours. He has always been a child of extremes - very happy and very upset. Since he was our first - we lacked confidence. My in-laws always told us that we were spoiling him. He reached the average milestones developmentally. In fact, his speech was amazing and he was talking in full sentences by 1 1/2. At 2 we figured out that he was lactose intolerant and confirmed it with an allergist Things were easier for a while (although he has always been very clingy with me) He started day care 3 days a week. He began hurting his friend, i.e. biting scratching, etc. Sometimes for no reason. Things got better for awhile. At three the fits began. He could not seem to let anything go and always needed to be in control of every situation. He could not (still can't) deal with choices. We started seeing a psychologist to try to get a handle on the situation. Initially, it was a big help to DH and myself and we learned how to discipline effectively and boost his self esteem. We used behavior charts and treasure chests. These visits were once a month. I kept asking the psychologist about having him evaluated and he told us that we did not want him labeled - he we waited. THe psychologist told us that he was concerned about Michael's attention span and that he had to see over time how things progressed. We stopped he the psychologist (I suspected that he only wanted his $110.00 per month) and finally had him evaluated by the school district. Michael has severe SI issues and is now receiving OT and has an IT in the classroom. We live in an excellent school district. The head of the special ed department even told us what teacher would work best with Michael.
We had to leave the previous daycare and start at a new one in January. Michael doesn't handle change well and has not been the same kid since. He hates going and asks every day if can go to kindergarten instead. It breaks my heart.
Michael's OT gave us a flyer for a study being conducted at a local university for children with inattention and behavior problems. We felt that we "had to" look into it. DS and I went for the initial intake which took four hours. We then learned that they were looking for children with ADHA and the study would take 3 years and the purpose is to see if early intervention can decrease the need for medication. It was emotionally exhausting. We were given questionairs to fill out ourselves and many for Michael's teacher. We received a call last week and were told that they suspect Aspergers because of the severe social issues, i.e. lack of eye contacct, inability to deal with change, quirkiness with his peers, fits, etc. They scheduled an evaluation of Michael on July 21st.
Michael's fits have increased drastically lately because the daycare has eliminated naps - and because he wakes up at 6:00 - even on the weekends. We are tyring our best not to loose our tempers, but it has been very trying. Lately, Michael has dropped his shorts at soccor, has played in his poop at daycare four out of five days and is averaging four or five severe fits a day.
He is a wonderful, sweet and extremely bright child. He breaks my heart on a daily basis. It's funny, before you have children you want beautiful smart kids. Now, I only want him to be happy.
I now feel that we may be getting some answers and I'm soooo glad I found this board.
Before I sign off, how can I get him to stop playing in his poop? He finally admitted that he likes how it feels, so I bought silly putty. It worked for a little while, but he back at it. UGGHHH. LOL!