Hi, I'm new to ivillage, but decided to check in out on a friends recommendation and am glad I have. Currently my husband and I are trying to potty train my godson (who has been essentially abandoned by his mother to our care). Over the past four months, I have tried EVERYTHING I know to try....rewards, potty charts, lots and lots of encouragement and praise, I even took my cousins advice and made HIM rinse his poopy underwear out in the sink and stand in the shower to get his but rinsed off (what she had to do for her little girl) and nothing is seeming to work...He's been peeing in the potty inconsistently for approximately 1 1/2 years (his mother seeming to take no interest in whether he actually started using the potty until after they moved in with four months ago and I started pushing the issue). Recently, it has become a fight to even get him to go into the bathroom and pee and then sit on the potty. I can't allow him to run around naked because it's cool in our house (we heat with wood) AND he was allowed to run around completely naked ALL the time until he moved in with us at which point it became a struggle to get him to keep his clothes on)...I feel like I am pulling my hair out with this issue. I have no children of my own, but have helped potty train other children over the years as I am in child care...never before have I felt so inadequate and at a loss as to what to do next. The worst part is, he knows how to use the potty, and what its for, but he waits until right after he leaves the bathroom to poop his pants, or (his latest antic) till he's standing in front of the potty to pee his pants...we can't even go out to our friends homes anymore because he keeps having accidents ALL NIGHT LONG while he is playing with their children, even though I take him to the bathroom every hour. He started preschool the first of january, and we thought that would help, but thus far it hasn't. If we make him sit on the potty every half hour to hour at home and he doesn't poop right after he gets off the potty, he just waits to do it at school the next day.
Sometimes, i am at a loss and feel very inadequate. I was not ready to be a parent to a toddler and this is just one of the many battles I face daily. Somedays I feel like I am ready to pull my hair out. I am willing to try anything to get him potty trained and ANY ideas would be greatly appreciated.