I AM A SURVIVOR!
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I was abused for a long time...
My story
YOU CAN NOT CONTROL THE ABUSE {PLEASE read this!} (10-13)
YOU CAN NOT CONTROL THE ABUSE
You did not cause the abuse
You can not keep it from happening again
Your words or actions do not influence his
Alcohol (or drug abuse) does not cause abuse. It is the excuse he uses to be abusive.
Because he is sorry afterward does not excuse what he did.
You are not one of his possessions to be used as he sees fit.
He is not 'King of his castle.' If the 'king' is abusive, he need to be dethroned.
Predictors Of Domestic Abuse (10-13)
Predictors Of Domestic Abuse
The following signs often occur before actual abuse and may serve as clues to potential abuse:
1.Did he grow up in a violent family? People who grow up in families where they have been abused as children, or where one parent beats the other, have grown up learning that violence is normal behavior.
Getting Support (10-13)
Getting Support
Domestic violence is a pervasive problem in virtually all countries, cultures, classes and income groups.
It is a complex and multifaceted problem with individual solutions that are appropriate for different women in different socio-cultural contexts.
Both short and long-term measures must be considered.
Short-term measures consist of assistance programs that protect the individual woman who has been or is being abused.
Why Do Women Stay? (10-13)
Why Do Women Stay?
All too often the question "Why do women stay in violent relationships?" is answered with a victim blaming attitude.
Women victims of abuse often hear that they must like or need such treatment, or they would leave.
Others may be told that they are one of the many "women who love too much" or who have "low self-esteem."
The truth is that no one enjoys being beaten, no matter what their emotional state or self image.
Why Do Men Batter Women? (please read this!) (10-13)
Why Do Men Batter Women?
Many theories have been developed to explain why some men use violence against their partners. These theories include: family dysfunction, inadequate communication skills, provocation by women, stress, chemical dependency, lack of spirituality and economic hardship.
These issues may be associated with battering of women, but they are not the causes. Removing these associated factors will not end men’s violence against women.
Who Is Battered? (10-13)
Who Is Battered?
Rural and urban women of all religious, ethnic, economic, educational backgrounds, of varying ages, physical abilities, and lifestyles can be affected by domestic violence.
There is NOT a "typical woman who will be battered." The risk factor is being born female. Over 50% of all women will experience physical violence in an intimate relationship, and for 24-30% of those women the battering will be regular and on-going.
EVERY 15 SECONDS THE CRIME OF BATTERING OCCURS.
