Friendshifts with Jan Yager

Cmtdarden: We all have had close relationships develop and fall apart through the years. How have these friendships impacted your life? Meet special May expert, Dr. Jan Yager, author of Friendshifts and learn about the power of friendship.
Jan Yager: Hi, who has tonight's first question?
Trueorfalse: I am going to ask about friendship between two friends in mid-thirties of the opposite sex. We have each gone through a marriage and have regular contact. A lot of contact is in here! We are close and I am wondering if we can maintain the friendship or do we have to be moving toward a higher plane in order for the friendship to survive? I am stumped.
Jan Yager: Are you married to him or someone else?
Trueorfalse: No, neither of us are married now, not for several years and never to each other.
Jan Yager: Do you want it to be more than friendship?
Trueorfalse: At times, I do. At times, I am really scared it will fail like my marriage if we get closer. I am petrified of moving closer, yet I really want to.
Jan Yager: The wonderful thing about friendship is that you can really set the pace a lot more easily than with a romantic relationship. You can keep it as slow as you need it to be and make sure you have numerous other friends, so you're not so dependent on this friend. It's almost the opposite of how to keep a romantic relationship working in your life.
Trueorfalse: Should I be looking for or sending signals that this is what I want for right now? I thought what you just said was very nice and apt I want that space to relax together. I don't need the cushion of friends but I guess they couldn't hurt.

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