NATSXDH: Ponders that.
Cmtdarden: Nats, did that answer your question?
NATSXDH: Yes really well. Thank you very much.
Jan Yager: You're welcome.
Hydra: I made some wonderful friends years ago when dh and I were in the Navy. We kept in touch for many years but it seems that the phone calls, letters and cards are getting fewer. How can I keep these friendships from fading away completely?
Jan Yager: Good question, first of all as everyone may know this is the second annual national new friends/old friends week so if you really care about these friends that are becoming more distant, this his a great chance to pick up the phone and say hi. Ask yourself, are they are fading because you've just moved on and no longer have as much in common with these old friends? None of us can handle, with our busy lives, limitless close or best friends, but we can have numerous casual friends. If they were close or best friends, you have to decide if you want to put the time and energy into keeping them intimate and in the loop of your current life.
Hydra: Since the divorce, they seem more distant. Maybe they feel uncomfortable?
Cmtdarden: Hydra, when I got divorced I lost all my friends but the ones from school that I had before the marriage, LOL.
Jan Yager: That's very, very common.
Hydra: I will still try to make the effort to keep in touch more often.
Jan Yager: It's important for you to think about which friends were truly shared by you and your ex- husband and which ones were his and you were just spending time with them because you were part of the couple.