Hydra: They were all part of the couple -- perhaps our splitting up makes them feel uncomfortable about their own marital future?
Jan Yager: If the friends were truly your spouses' its great you at least have friends you maintained from school that are still there for you. You described one of the classic friendships post-divorce syndrome. Sometimes if you really like someone, especially another woman, you met through your husband you might want to call her and clear the air and say I'd really like to keep up the friendship with you -- is it possible that you could move beyond the awkwardness from maintaining a friendship with my ex-husband. But remember change is hard for everyone so really question if you're just resisting the change or if they are really worth salvaging.
Hydra: I will try to clear the air with them. Thanks so much.
Jan Yager: You're welcome, who is next?
Uchello: I'm a 22 year-old college student who is graduating in June. I just told my parents that I am moving into an apartment with an older man who is a friend. They have told me that they will disown me if I move into the apartment. Is that so bad? Is it really such a bad thing to move in with a close male friend?
Jan Yager: How much older?
Uchello: About 23 years, but we are really close.
Jan Yager: Why don't you want to room with a female friend similar in age?
Uchello: There was no one at the time, it's really a temporary thing. My parents are really upset about it though.