Friendshifts with Jan Yager

Try to put yourself in your parent's shoes. They're obviously being protective and worried about your close male friend's possible feelings for you beyond friendship. If you were in their shoes what would you think?
Uchello:I totally understand, but they have always been extremely overprotective and I'm tired of it. I am just trying to gain my independence I guess.
Jan Yager: There are so many issues here. One is obviously your plans are causing a confrontation with your parents and you're 23. You're not a child anymore, but you have to consider what friendship and what roommate would be best for you. Try to focus on that rather than the reaction of your parents.
Uchello: I don't want to lose my parents. But I also know that they won't be happy if I'm not living under their roof.
Jan Yager: I just read your comment saying you're trying to gain independence. You have to question if moving in with a man 23 years your senior is gaining your independence or trading dependency on another who is old enough to be a parent.
Uchello: Good point, thanks. It's something to think about.
1Copper: Has the Internet affected the way friendships develop and or progress?
Jan Yager: That's a very interesting question.
1Copper: I thought so too.
Jan Yager:The Internet has certainly made it possible to almost instantly connect with others who share interests. Also just through logging on and interacting through the Internet both potential friends show that they want to reach out to others. Like pen pals used to. The speed with which you can instantly communicate is both positive and negative, as is the potential anonymity that writing to an email address offers, even beyond writing to a PO box with a traditional letter.

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