Full Speed Ahead: He's Totally OK With Your Vibrator

Study shows sex toys are a win-win for men and women

Think your guy isn’t down with your use of sex toys? A new study shows most men aren’t actually threatened by vibrating silver bullets and magic wands.

The study also found that -- surprise! -- women who use vibrators report higher levels of sexual satisfaction, including more and quicker orgasms. (Past studies have shown that lube works wonders, too.) Women who felt they had to use them in private weren’t nearly as satisfied as those who wielded their wands freely during partner play.

That totally makes sense. After all, if you feel like you can’t express your sexual preferences openly in the sack, the experience isn’t likely to be as mind-blowing as it could be.

I bought my first vibrator when I was in my 20s, living in a different city from my boyfriend. To say I was pressured into buying the most extravagant whirligig of a sex toy is an understatement. Though I should have gone to one of those female-friendly sex toy shops, I ended up in a seedy store confronted by a salesperson with all the bedside manner of a used car salesman. He even used a car analogy to make his sale.

“I mean, you can buy the Impala version, or you can treat yourself right and get this Cadillac here with all the bells and whistles and you won’t even care if you’ve got a man.”

You can guess which one I ended up with. Stuffed with pearl beads that rotated in the opposite direction of the shaft, Tokyo Rose spun clockwise and counterclockwise. It lit up and, of course, had the rabbit head vibrator attached to the base. It was the disco ball of vibrators.

Unfortunately, my boyfriend was not nearly as impressed as I was. “Why’d you have to go and buy the biggest one in the store?” he asked.

“Well, actually, I didn’t. The box says it has a modest shaft that’s perfect for beginners,” I replied.

Suffice to say, Tokyo Rose and I enjoyed many romantic nights together, just the two of us. And, it turns out, the salesman was right: I didn’t really care if I had a man -- at least, that man.

I’ve since graduated from Tokyo Rose and the boyfriend, and am glad to report that my new toy and my husband play very well together. I consider it a very mutually beneficial relationship. I guess you could even call it a happy ending. 

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