Photo Credit: Amanda Edwards/Wireimage/getty images
Gabourey Sidibe attended the Golden Globes and was criticized for her body, her dress, and how her body looked in her dress. Although she shouldn't have had to deal with it, her response was brilliant and, if it were possible for me to be more of a fan of her, this would have done it:
To people making mean comments about my GG pics, I mos def cried about it on that private jet on my way to my dream job last night. #JK— Gabourey Sidibe (@GabbySidibe) January 13, 2014
Obviously the fat bashing and concern trolling are totally BS, but there is something more insidious happening. I can’t even count the number of tweets by women, including fat women, who cheered Gabourey’s tweet and then criticized her dress. I don’t want to speak for Ms. Sidibe but maybe, just maybe, this tweet is for them too.
Gabourey is a grown woman who attended the Golden Globes as she was styled. I don’t actually think it matters that she had people helping her, she chose to go out in that dress and I choose to respect her choice and support her by not criticizing her. If she doesn’t like what her staff did then she can say something to them but I’m not interested in criticizing her look because I don’t think you can criticize her outfit without criticizing her and I don’t see what good comes of this. We have so few Women of Color walking red carpets and so few Women of Size walking red carpets and I don’t see why we would suggest that somehow they owe each of us our definition of well-dressed or they deserve to have their choices picked apart and criticized publicly. What I see is society making people into celebrities and then making them pay for being celebrities with scrutiny and judgment, and justifying the whole thing based on the fact that they are celebrities so they deserve it. Y’all, could we not?
I am aware that fashion bashing is some kind of national pastime, but I guess I just don't understand why we feel the need to judge other people's clothes at all. I don't see what good comes of it, other than people a momentary feeling of superiority. I would personally much prefer to live in a world where we each choose what we want to wear, that choice is nobody else’s business unless we ask them to make it their business, and we don’t feel the need to judge anybody's clothing choices for any reason, no matter what they do for a living.