Gail Liberman and Alan Lavine on Love, Marriage and Money

zena_19_98: We have five kids, ages 13 to 2 and my husband works up to 12 hours a day. Consequently we have little time or energy to spend with each other. Financially, a sitter is outrageous.
GailAlan: Zena, you have it tough. Try to set a special time to spend with your husband. You might unplug phones. Get somebody to watch the kids. Make certain you get to go out and enjoy yourselves now and then. He does have days off, right? What always brings us closer together is when we talk about how we first met. We laugh together and get looks in our eyes.
zena_19_98: He works a lot of Saturdays.
GailAlan: While a babysitter might be expensive, sometimes you can arrange to get an au pair to help you out in exchange for room and board. Or do you have family who can help watch the kids now and then? Or maybe a neighbor or friend? Sounds like you and your husband desperately need to get away.
zena_19_98: The only family that will do that can only do it about once every two months. No one wants to watch five kids.
GailAlan: Zena, sometimes you have to make the best of it. Plan your time together well. Also, keep in mind that it's not forever and your husband's work ultimately will pay off. You children probably will grow up soon and will be able to help each other out.
marlymar99: Since my husband and I had twins, I am working part-time and we have had much tighter budget.
GailAlan: Marly, it's tough with twins. If you get a little behind, that's okay.
marlymar99: Do you recommend seeing a financial planner to help with budgeting? Is it worth the cost?

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