Gail Liberman and Alan Lavine on Love, Marriage and Money

96mommy99: My dh is the spender and I am the tightwad. I feel guilty if I spend a cent on myself. He just got a gracious raise, so is it my turn to spend?
GailAlan: 96mommy99, If you want to spend, and he's agreeable, you have our blessings!
96mommy99: That's it. He's not agreeable.
GailAlan: Just be sure that you pay yourself first and put some money away in a savings account before you do anything else. We thought you were a tightwad.
96mommy99: If I spend 90 dollars at grocery store he acts like it was a personal shopping spree for myself
bigbyrd3: Agrees with Gail.
GailAlan: You need to have a talk with him about that. Express that you feel it's unfair. Do you work?
bigbyrd3: You need to send your husband grocery shopping once in a while to see what the costs are.
GailAlan: By the way, don't try sending your husband food shopping. We've tried that, and Al winds up buying all the stuff he eats and nothing that his wife needs.
96mommy99: He went with me once, we spent 115 dollars. We have a two-and-a-half year old and one on the way.
GailAlan: If he goes shopping with you, you both can price things out and decide jointly what's important to buy.
TOOWILDCHILD: Do you use coupons?
96mommy99: Oh yeah!
GailAlan: Make certain you have a list before you go shopping. It averts impulse spending.
96mommy99: I am the tightwad, so I do all that, but he acts like it's the end of the world when I buy a shower curtain.
GailAlan: He likes to go shopping by himself because he spends half as much money. Al says he'll get over the shower curtain (voice of experience). By the way, you also need to meet regularly to discuss your household finances. That way, there won't be any surprises.

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