Get Through to Your Man: 5 Tips for Better Communication

We can go through all the cliches: Men and women speak different languages; we're from different planets; we should live next door to each other and visit only occasionally. But when you're desperately trying to get through to your partner and you're not, it's easy to start seeing your whole relationship unravel. Here are five common scenarios, with tips from iVillage members on how to cope with them.

Problem: He won't listen to my pleas to change, or shuts me out when I try to discuss an issue.
Member solution: "Write him a letter telling him how you feel, then he would be a 'captive audience' to your letter." --stretch123

Problem: We never argue. He avoids all confrontation and refuses to deal with problems. How do I get through to him?
Member solution: "Not arguing is healthy. But not discussing things may not be. If you NEED his opinion about something, give him several choices that are acceptable to you ... 'Honey, give me your opinion ... Do you prefer A, B, or C?' It might just not matter to him and that is certainly ok." --junest

Problem: When we disagree over something he's done, he throws everything back at me and makes the entire issue my fault -- in other words, it's not his behavior that's a problem, it's that I'm upset about it.
Member solution: "Who is 'right' is not important. The fact that you are arguing over it is. Tell your husband calmly and without accusing him of anything how his behavior makes you feel. Tell him why. Then ask him to tell you candidly and honestly why he does what he does. Don't get angry, just listen. Try to see his point of view, don't necessarily agree or disagree, just see where he is coming from." --mctaylor

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