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Being a tween or teenage girl is full of worries: What’s happening to my body? Will anyone ask me to the dance? Will my parents ever stop embarrassing me? The last thing they need is to create an open forum on the Internet inviting strangers to tell them if they’re ugly.
Yep, the heartbreaking-but-true trend of “Am I Pretty or Ugly” YouTube videos, first reported on in 2011, is back in the news thanks to the premiere of a new performance project, Slate reports, with more than 450,000 now posted on the site.
She likens the posts to a modern version of the personal diary, and tells the website, in researching the videos, she was struck by the language and the pretty or ugly question.
"I was horrified by it," Orwin tells Wired. "Then you look at the comments below; they were horrific."
“Horrific” barely covers it. Negative comments range from “99% ugly %1 pretty” to “You're extremely ugly, go kill yourself.” Then there are the sexual, racist and misogynistic comments, too.
On her blog, Orwin writes that as woman who has spent many years worrying about her looks, weight and image, she couldn’t imagine why a girl would willingly open herself up to cyber-bullying.
“Are these little girls so brave?” she writes. “Or is there something else going on underneath? Peering through fingers clasped over my eyes I wanted to know.”
And, so Owrin began interacting with the girls.
“In many of the interviews I found the girls answering that they knew they shouldn’t see looking good as an important part of their lives, but that it was almost necessary: ‘to get higher socially’, ‘to talk to boys’, ‘to feel good’,” she writes, adding that many of the girls "didn’t identify with the concept of feminism either."
As part of the project, Orwin asked girls to finish the sentence, “I am…” rather than “Am I…” in hopes of inspiring positivity among young girls.
Let’s hope that when these YouTube videos launch, they’ll start a new trend.