• Blown off for a better offer: Amber and Michelle are in the ninth grade. They used to hang out all the time, but recently they haven't been spending as much time together because their interests are changing and they're hanging out with different groups. Amber and Michelle make plans to hang out Saturday night. Michelle is supposed to come over at 7:00. At 5:00, one of Amber's new, more popular friends, Nicole, calls her and asks her to go to the movies. She also tells Amber that Will, a really hot guy in the group, is interested in her; he's going to the movies, too. Amber lies to Michelle ("My mom is so mean! She won't let me go out because I have to do chores.") and goes out with Nicole.
• Divided loyalties and the tag-along: Jennifer and Jolene are in sixth grade and very good friends. Sometimes they play with Sara, a girl who really wants to be in their group. Jolene and Sara used to be really good friends, but these days Jolene thinks Sara is a little boring. Jennifer invites Jolene to her house for a sleepover on Saturday night. Sara overhears them talking about it and asks if she can come. Jennifer tells Sara that she's a tag-along and she should make her own friends. Jolene doesn't like what Jennifer said to Sara, but she doesn't say anything.
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