Give Him a Hand: 7 Manual Sex Secrets

Get a Grip

Sexperts worldwide dispense the same advice on this one: Women need to be touched softer and slower; men need to be touched harder and faster. Lots of women make the mistake of being scared of his most prized part. Holding it between finger and thumb like it's made of spun glass isn't sexy '- it makes him think you don't really want to touch it. Instead, take a good, firm hold and move into a well-practiced, self-assured technique.

Watch Video: Types of Orgasms


Practice Until You're a Pro

Simply read up about hand-job techniques, and you're liable to give up before you've even started '- it sounds like reinventing the Rubik's Cube! Try some moves out, however, and you soon realize it's more like connecting the dots. Keen to impress but don't want to look like a twit in front of your new lover? Practice on a prop, such as a curtain rod or a carrot. This is the basic motion you need to master: slide up, circle, slide down the other side. More specifically, grasp your hand firmly around the base of the penis, and slide it upward until it reaches the head. Once you're there, pause '- and rub your palm over the head in small, slow, sexy circles. Next, let your hand drop naturally down the other side of the penis, grasping the shaft until you're back to base camp again, but on the opposite side with your hand facing the opposite way. Do that 10 times, with each motion lasting 10 seconds, then add one quick, firm, up-and-down pump stroke. Repeat that cycle over and over, each time adding an extra up and down. But decrease the number of pumps if he's dangerously close to losing it (and you've got other plans on how to use that erection!).

Connect with Us
Follow Our Pins

Yummy recipes, DIY projects, home decor, fashion and more curated by iVillage staffers.

Follow Our Tweets

The very dirty truth about fashion internships... DUN DUN @srslytheshow

On Instagram

Behind-the-scenes pics from iVillage.

Best of the Web